Friday, July 23, 2010

Blind Date Question Survey

First dates are awkward. BLIND first dates can be a little slice of hell. Unless, of course, one can find a way to liven things up a bit. And, you know, make the evening that much less torturous for all concerned.

That is where these questions come in. Forget about "do you have siblings" or "are you the oldest or the youngest in your family" or "why did you make aliyah" or "why did you decide to become an actuary?" All of us who have found ourself going the blind date route have asked and been asked those questions a bazillion times (well maybe not the actuary one). Not only are we all sick of asking and answering them but...really...tell me, do you care about the answer? No, you do not. Nor does anyone else. Maybe the first date or two or three. But now? Not a chance. Each date just blends in with the next.

So...I would like to reject the standard questions. I want different questions. Questions that would make you smile, if someone asked you that on a date. Silly questions. Quirky questions. Interesting questions. Questions that might (gasp) reveal your personality. Questions that will put you both sufficiently at ease that each of you will be able to assess "do I like this person" and "do I like this person enough to go out with them again and ask the questions we 'should' be asking on date one".

Because--and I realize I should not be saying this because I am an accountant and you know what they say about people in glass houses but nonetheless--I think it is fair to say that if you spend more than 15 seconds discussing being an actuary, the answer to the above questions is likely to be no.

And...you know...we go on so many of these dates. Is it really so heretical, so unthinkable that they might be made...fun

Results--assuming I get a decent number--will be posted on this blog.



11 comments:

e.e. said...

My two cents:

What's the silliest thing you did at work?

J.P. said...

Would you go on a date with me, just to go out, to forget about the relationship- goal, I am not allways this rude or without table manners.

SiBW said...

My recommendations, in Top Ten List form: http://solelyinblackandwhite.blogspot.com/2010/07/top-ten-interesting-conversation.html

J.P. said...

If I may say myself, my Widekimen's blog has far more style than SIBW's.

e.e. said...

Here's another:
what's the most meshugena thing you did before leaving a job?

I can relate to that - when I left my first full-time job, I did stand-up comedy for my amused supervisor...

J.P. said...

I'd even wear my favourite tie!

J.P. said...

What about a butterfly tie?

J.P. said...

And braces?

Joanne @ Israel said...

Your suggestions are nice but many people remain rather conservative. And besides, if you were asked some funny question instead of a traditional one you've mentioned in your posting, wouldn't you think that the person who's asking is a bit strange to put it mildly? it seems to be a vicious circle...

e.e. said...

Hi Gila,

I'm sure I write for others too -

we miss your amusing and interesting posts!

What's up?

E

Anonymous said...

where are you? is everything ok?